Sunday, 5 February 2017

Letting go


A very bitter, personal blow last week made it clear that I need to cap this particular forum and move on - not important to detail it, but one of those times when I realized I have been wrapped in some delusional escape for so long I didn't realize I was burning a candle, keeping something alive, cutting myself unconsciously from other opportunities for something that was long past relevance for anyone involved.   The irony is not lost on me that the trajectory of this blog recently has trended to the obituary, as I suppose it has become one in and of itself.   The obituaries themselves I want to keep here in sincerest testimony to my loved ones and friends that have passed on.  If anyone has stopped here and read, I wish you peace and joy.

Friday, 27 January 2017

The ball drops at Crzy Strngr



Holidays just melted by, and haven't felt the pull to write anything on this forum.  I have been a lot more disciplined getting into the studio and trying to put something down every day, usually 20-30 bar loops with 3-5 tracks, in Reason (Propellerhead Reason, that is) and then using them to play over for an extended period.  It's been interesting to approach these with no guitar at all - I have always written "guitar first", however despite a knowledge/playing level on keyboard of "zero" I'm finding it easier and easier to initiate from the controller.  Feels more creative than just noodling or practicing scales, but now am becoming more concerned that I never carry anything to completion, and will eventually hit a wall with my technical limitations.  In any case,  I certainly have a body of work after a few months that is interesting to listen to and play over. 
Case in point, New Years Eve 2016; kids both out at different locations for the night, S didn't make it past 11pm I met 2017 truly alone - with the track below, kind of ambient one-chord thing, sounding a bit like an orchestra tuning up...but that's just what came out.  Happy New Year,


Thursday, 28 July 2016

Call of the Wild


Grandpa Joe, spinning tall tales and yarns to the kiddies c. 2007, Sophie's b'day party

Many years ago, sometime in my childhood,  my Dad made an offhand comment to me that when he passed away he wanted all traces of himself, photos, etc disposed of; presumably so it would be like he never existed.  It was a radical concept so foreign to my embryonic sense of ego and self-importance that it shocked and surprised me.  I've contemplated it ever since, though never considered asking him if he recalled saying such a thing or had modified his view as time passed.

I watched on helplessly and with horror as his life ebbed away in the early hours of July 16th and knew I'd never know the answer.   So unexpected and such a shock - Dad always seemed indestructible, or at least on a toughness scale far beyond us.  Which isn't to say he didn't get hurt or sick, especially the former as he tended to exert himself with great energy into activities under conditions that I'm sure he was confident he had complete control of, but from our perspective looked like a wanton and reckless disregard for personal comfort or safety.  I can't recall exactly when he started running but by the time I was an undergrad in the 80s it was marathons, and then upwards of 5-6 a year, working through the annual circuit of Boston, NYC, National Capital in Ottawa, Toronto, and Marine Corps in Washington DC.  Rock climbing became a passion later in life and he seemed to be out tackling the local challenges constantly.  In need of some additional conditioning, my ever-practical father constructed a colossal and ingenious personal climbing gym, built off a central "chimney" of posts embedded in concrete, right up the side of the family house.

The Joe Bray Climbing Gym: Built to Last
I was describing this structure once to my colleagues, and fellow Acton-ite TDA exclaimed with astonishment "So THAT was YOUR house !!!", as they used to walk their dog past our property and often speculated as to what on earth the massive outrigger of scaffolding was on the place.  

I spent countless hours with him during the endless drives to swim practices as an adolescent, (11 workouts a week and often all -weekend competition as well), and I loved to hear him tell the stories of his undergrad days working summers for Fisheries Research in the high arctic.  I am grateful he finally documented and then self-published these memoirs in a book that I now treasure.  It was a privilege to have attended two different high schools at which he was a senior administrator, and saw first hand the fondness and respect he commanded from his colleagues.  Dad was a wonderful writer and very dryly funny, with a penchant for sly and creative practical jokes.  He began working in stained glass as a sort of hobby-business into his retirement years, and over time attained prodigious skill.  He took on projects of ever-increasing difficulty, from Tiffany lamp reproductions through astounding custom pieces including an enormous replica of the Mayan sun calendar (!).  After many years he began creating outdoor installations of astonishing folk art, multiple layers of kiln-fused glass with a mysterious and deliberately cryptic vocabulary of pictorial symbols; left to us all to "figure out".

When he was diagnosed with prostate cancer at 65 he tackled it with characteristic stoicism, shrugging off visible displays of discomfort and fear, and recovering after a radical prostatectomy and rad to emerge clear of cancer until his death.  As I got older I recognized and appreciated the courage and determination it must have taken for him to have turned his back on the family farm, land his family had worked for generations, to seek a wholly independent path and higher education, first at Guelph and then at McGill.  It was invisible to us as kids, but it must have set up a rift between himself and his own father in particular that may never have healed.  He never pursued his true love of science as a profession, as he took teaching jobs for income when he started a young family and settled into a career.  My own path in science was hugely influenced by him, though I would often joke that with his background in botany and zoology he was "Macro", while I was very much "Micro".

This forum is not the place for an expansive bio, and I imagine that he would not have wanted such a thing in public view anyway (see above), so I will leave it with the obit I tried to write in a fashion he would appreciate, capping it with some lines that resonated with me from his beloved Robert Service:


Joseph Russell Bray
b. Wiarton, September 26, 1938 to Almer and Alma Bray (deceased)– died Milton, July 16, 2016

BRAY, Joseph Russell, of Acton, 77, died following a brief illness at Milton District Hospital July 16th.  Arctic explorer, scientist, educator, long distance runner, stained glass artisan, and above all devoted husband of Melanija, and father to Paul (deceased), Mark (Sarah), Melanie (Ben) and Peter (Riina).  Proud and loving grandfather of Tessa, Sophie, Liam and Ronin.  In his professional life Joe Bray was a model of integrity and fairness;  to his family, his deep, searching intellect, self-sacrifice, discipline, kindness, and vast good humor was always an inspiration.  Joe Bray lived his life putting others before himself, and his greatest joy was in supporting the accomplishments and successes of his family.  His abiding love of nature was reflected in his few indulgences including marathon running, kayaking, and rock climbing, which he pursued with typical great energy and enthusiasm.   It is with the greatest sadness that we say our farewell to him so soon.

A private ceremony will be held by the family at a future date.

"Have you suffered, starved and triumphed, grovelled down, yet grasped at glory,
Grown bigger in the bigness of the whole?
'Done things' just for the doing, let the babblers tell the story,
Seeing through the nice veneer the naked soul?
Have you seen God in His splendours, heard the text that nature renders?
(You'll never hear it in the family pew.)
The simple things, the true things, the silent men who do things -
Then listen to the wild, it's calling you."
- Robert W. Service, Call of the Wild

Tuesday, 31 May 2016

In the final moments

Have to say I was really bummed when Prince died - though dedicating a post to that seemed to cement this forum as less a celebration of musical things and more something death-obsessed.  I trolled around looking for a word that would best describe such a state and I think that "morbid" truly is the most accurate English word, though ran across "thanatopsis" as well, which invariably points to the famous poem of the same name by William Cullen Bryant, ca. 1811.  Not sure if it's an actual word in common usage, but it means a meditation or view (perspective?) on death.  The poem is a real corker, however so much has been written of and about it I will leave it to the interested reader to Google to explore (short summary: You, like everything else, gonna die.  And you'll be in good company once you do, as everyone all dead that's ever been before now.  So go live, because you gonna die). 


Ok so no more Morbid posts for a bit - today instead I offer the almost prayer-like, understated yet hopeful melancholia of Mark Oliver Everett, aka Eels... a song that fits my mood perfectly today (ok, most days),




The choice is mine for making
a better road ahead
the road that I've been taking,
headed for a dead-end,
but it's not too late to turn around

In the final moments
I hope that I know that I tried
to do best I could

To stop defeating my own self
and stop repeating yesterday.
I can't keep defeating myself,
I can't keep repeating,
the mistakes of my youth.


Copyright 2014  Mark O. Everett

Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Music is the best

Ron Case/Keystone/Getty Images 

Early 2016 was littered with a number of prominent rock stars deaths but strangely my attention was drawn in this time to one in the distant past.  Not sure how this happened exactly (web searching on "prostate cancer" ?) I ran into some brief but chilling information on the illness of Frank Zappa, leading to his death in 1993.  Bluntly, my understanding is Frank had "urinary problems" for a number of years, underwent "tests" with no specific diagnosis or resolution, before having some kind of emergency crisis culminating in a confirmed diagnosis of metastatic and inoperable prostate cancer.  What brought this home to me in a way not possible in 1993 was the fact that I now have an intimate familiarity with this path having had "problems" for a couple of years; multiple tests, many many painful exams and attempts at therapy for what has been termed "prostatitis", ie "who knows what's wrong".  As well, I had no idea that Frank was EXACTLY MY AGE, like ~49 at diagnosis and only 52 when he died!  I have good surveillance and hopefully better diagnostic tools available than in Frank's day, but nonetheless brought it home that one can't relax on these things or assume anything.

Not to dwell on the prostate aspect (guys over 35, get an exam and have PSA checked right now!!)... The revelation above sent me into a couple of weeks of obsessive reading; years of Zappa interviews and a survey of available video of Frank in various forums, interview, docs etc.  My early introduction to musical Zappa was through JP (of course...), who had Zoot Allures and Live in New York in steady rotation around the time they were current releases '76-'78-ish.  Paul loved the music but the theatrics of the Zappa show was a big draw for him as well, I think. I never took a deep dive into Frank's music after that period though - I bought the "Shut Up and Play yer Guitar" compilation, not so much for Frank as for the connection to Steve Vai back in the late '80s/90s.    I don't think it's necessary to connect with the music to gain inspiration and from the life of Frank Zappa however, as odd as that sounds.  Frank was astonishingly productive with the same allotment of time on earth I have had - 60+ albums, countless live performances, the movies, and the forging and maintenance of one of the most recognizable personas in modern music history. Contrary to popular (mis)conception, Frank was a dedicated workaholic who spoke out publicly throughout his career against drug and alcohol use and preferring to spend his time in his basement studio deeply engaged in the act of creation.  For Zappa in words, I recommend his own book (ie "The Real Frank Zappa Book", available at Amazon or anywhere) and a breeze through the excellent archive of articles and interviews at:

http://afka.net/Articles/index.htm

One of my favorites is the piece written by journalist Rip Rense called "Zappa Drinks and Goes Home" (http://www.riprense.com/zappa_drinks.htm), which offers a rare glimpse into the non-public face of Frank, in his last days.   Not sure I would have believed the TGIF thing had I not actually seen a video clip of the night Rip refers to (with the Chieftains, etc) which I saw in a documentary but is also available in FULL on Youtube as "Frank Zappa Salad Home Party"


Anyway, I was touched deeply by all this and have drawn inspiration and courage from his story and words.  In particular, the message I took away from my reading to distrust rules, dogma and formal education relying on instinct, self-direction, and the construct of a "personal" approach to harmony/music rather than become tunneled into convention resonates with me.  Could go on and on but this is becoming epic (and thereby unreadable)... last word to Frank, a statement oft-quoted from which the title of this post is derived,

“Information is not knowledge.
Knowledge is not wisdom.
Wisdom is not truth.
Truth is not beauty.
Beauty is not love.
Love is not music.
Music is THE BEST.” 

- Frank Zappa


Thursday, 24 September 2015

RIP Oliver Pocknell 1966 - 2015

I had good intentions to write a post on reflections from the Maine vacation this year, in the vein of motivation and the conquest of procrastination.  You can see (ironically) just how far I got on that one.  That idea was superseded however by the news that my friend Oliver Pocknell had, in the words of his obituary "passed away quietly at his home" on September 11.
I met Oliver while in residence at the infamous South House of Victoria College, University of Toronto as an undergraduate in the 80's... he came into South as frosh in '85, my third year.  As a somewhat elfin looking, jumpy guy he quickly gained the affectionate nickname "Twitch" (nicknames were mandatory at South House) which stuck like glue to him all the time I knew him.   He soon proved to be a resilient and highly likeable character with a great appreciation for House tradition and "culture".  It was really my graduating year '86-'87 that I got to know him better, and probably spent more time with him then than with my own family.  My memory is lined with recollections of him as a most companionable presence day in and out; kindhearted, sensitive, genuine and funny.  Late night runs for fast food, "a cappella" beat box impressions of "Walk This Way" a la Run DMC/Aerosmith out in the street, hours of recording a fake radio talk show we called "Guppy's Forum" (yes, my own burdensome nickname revealed...)....he would usually just "appear" in the doorway like a shadow at some point in the evenings and be up for anything.  After I left in '87 in those pre-internet days we corresponded for a while by letter but I gradually lost track of him and his whereabouts.  I ran into him once on the street in the 90's after returning to TO following two years in Vancouver, and after that tried to track him a few times without much success - he was a bit "off the grid".   Looking back on my own 49 years he really stands out as one of the "good" ones, and I wish I had tried harder to keep in touch with him while I still could.  Peace, brother - I feel blessed to have called you my friend.

Monday, 6 July 2015

Of white boxes and Knopfler docs

For those paying attention to this drivel I inflict on the world I had to sacrifice my post on Army/Navy's "The Mistakes" from a month or two ago in order to remove a mysterious and unsightly "white box of doom" that had infected my blog, covering up my title header.  Despite the valiant efforts of nephew G to root the thing out only precision bombing got rid of it.  No intention of recreating the post, so please for those sensitive lovelorn souls who consider Matthew Sweet's "Sick of Myself" their personal anthem please Google the band and tune.

Today a wonderful, charming, and low-key doc I trolled over recently, as usual looking for something else...  former Dire Straits bassist John Illsley travels with guitar legend Mark Knopfler to re-visit a series of instruments that helped define his career.


Very cool idea for a documentary and of interest to any guitar nut/Knopfler fan.  Have to say I pretty much burst into tears at 13:10 to hear him launch into the intro to R + J - so great....